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Negative Nancy vs. Positive Polly

Attitude is everything.

A bad attitude will make a difficult situation worse, while a positive attitude can transform a situation.  Many travelers are stuck at DIA right now.  Those looking at the delay as an adventure will have a much more positive experience than those complaining about it.  Complaining that your child has nothing to do and is cranky and misbehaving will only put both parent and progeny into a bad mood.  Instead…explore the airport.  Play hide and seek… make an adventure of the delay. You’ll still be exhausted, but in a better much better mood than the parent who nags his/her child all day to “behave.”  (Who said sitting quietly in a chair waiting patiently was “behaving,” anyway?  Children are loud and messy, trying to make them anything but is like trying to make a fish climb a tree.)

I’m on this positive kick, I have been for a while.  I understand transforming everything into sunshine and rainbows is beyond annoying–nauseating, even.  In college, a girl on my floor had been overprescribed Prozac (or some similar mood-altering drug.)  Her sunshine and rainbows and smiles made me sick; I loathed her.

When people talk shit about us, our defense is: they are jealous.  They say mean things because they are unhappy about themselves.  Negative Nancy is the same.  I know because I default to Negative Nancy.  When I am upset, when I am sad, when I am angry, when I am hurt, I become Negative Nancy.  In college those first few months: Negative Nancy.  This whole past two months: Negative Nancy. And I haven’t enjoyed being myself, so I can imagine it’s been a chore to be around me as well.

Enter: Positive Polly.

I forced myself to focus on the positive by publicly pointing out amazing things RMRG skaters do at scrimmage or practice…  it really took off.  Everyone thinks it’s really cool I do that, a few others have started doing it themselves, etc.  I actually won an award for it at Prom–kind of embarrassing, since I feel like a fraud.  It was the “fuzzy kitty” award for being warm and fuzzy.  All I was doing was forcing myself to look on the bright side.

Anyway, my point is: it’s not easy or natural to be a Positive Polly.  At least not for me.  But…  people really like Positive Polly.  Plus, Positive Polly has way more fun!  She looks at every situation as an opportunity or an adventure, not as a chore to get through.

Saturday night, the World were Positive Polly’s.  And we scored 68 points to Fight Club’s… 18?  in the first few minutes of that scrimmage.  That was incredible!  How was that even possible?  Anything is possible for Positive Polly.  Nothing is easy… but it’s possible.  Keeping a positive attitude in the eventual 420-100 point beat down was challenging.  And there were moments where we lost our cool, but we clung to our positivity as a child to his blankie, and we scored 100 points.  Against Fight Club.  And that was pretty awesome.  And totally thanks to Positive Polly (even if she is annoyingly nauseating and sugar coated.)

So.  The lesson I learned this weekend is: Positive Attitude.  Always look on the bright side of things.  And when negativity starts clouding your focus… force it.  Force a smile on your face, say something nice to someone, and make yourself be positive.  You’ll feel much better about the situation, yourself, and… everyone else will appreciate it, too.

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